The Words C.S. Lewis Made Up: Disredemption

Behind C.S. Lewis’ famous Narnian chronicles was his experience as a teacher of English literature, a writer about the history of literary movements, and a tinker in other forms of fiction. In that tinkering, and in his letters and essays, he would sometimes create new turns of phrase when it was needed. This is the eighth in the series on words that C.S. Lewis coined.  

First delivered as a lecture series for radio, then turned into a book, C.S. Lewis’ The Four Loves was considered to be a bit too hot to touch for American listeners in 1958. The producers of The Episcopal Radio Hour from Atlanta had fair warning. When asked if he would consider recording some talks, Lewis agreed:

The subject I want to say something about in the near future, in some form or other, is the four Loves–Storge, Philia, Eros, and Agape.This seems to bring in nearly the whole of Christian ethics. Wd. this be suitable for your purpose? Of course I shd. do it on the ‘popular’ level–not (as the four words perhaps suggest) philologically (1 May 1958 letter to Bishop Henry I. Louttit).

What might they have thought Lewis would have talked about when addressing Eros if it wasn’t erotic love? Perhaps it was Lewis’ positive vision of sexuality that disturbed the editors–a vision that became sharper for Lewis when that love was gone:

For those few years [Joy] and I feasted on love, every mode of it—solemn and merry, romantic and realistic, sometimes as dramatic as a thunderstorm, sometimes as comfortable and unemphatic as putting on your soft slippers. No cranny of heart or body remained unsatisfied (C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed, 17).

While we don’t easily blush at a statement like this today, the 1950s were different. Perhaps it was talking about sex at all that was problematic for the Americans. In any case, Lewis’ frank talk about sex caused the series to be shelved. The CD was released decades later; the sex content was left unadulterated but his cigarette was photoshopped out of the picture. American sentiments about morality really have shaped the journey of this lecture series on love.

Why did Lewis turn to the subject of love in 1958? As he says in his letter to Bishop Louttit, his interest in ethics had kept the idea of different kinds of love active in his mind–and he had been thinking about the Greek loves since the 1930s with his The Allegory of Love and his encounter with Anders Nygren’s Agape and Eros. Lewis at this time was also lecturing on “Some Difficult Words,” the kind of lectures that moved into his book, Studies in Words, published in 1960 as the book form of The Four Loves was coming to print. Lewis had been writing in his letters about different kinds of Greek ideas of love since 1954, just a couple of months after Joy Davidman moved to England with her sons.

While the connection may be coincidental, it is no doubt that by the summer of 1958 Lewis had fallen in love in a way that he never imagined was possible–or perhaps even desirable–for him. The ideas of romantic love and sex in The Four Loves are not merely theoretical, and certainly not just philological.

In The Four Loves, Lewis discusses the kinds of promises our heart makes to us and others when we fall in love. “This is true love,” our heart says to us. “It cannot be broken. Love is real this time, no matter what happened before. And though love fades for others, it will always feel this way to us.” It is in the nature of Eros to promise us that this love will never be transitory. Rather than looking down on lovers, or chastising them for their ignorance, Lewis steps back from the experience of falling love and observes its effects:

The event of falling in love is of such a nature that we are right to reject as intolerable the idea that it should be transitory. In one high bound it has overleaped the massive wall of our selfhood; it has made appetite itself altruistic, tossed personal happiness aside as a triviality and planted the interests of another in the centre of our being. Spontaneously and without effort we have fulfilled the law (towards one person) by loving our neighbour as ourselves. Simply to relapse from it, merely to “fall out of” love again is—if I may coin the ugly word—a sort of disredemption (The Four Loves, 158).

Falling out of love, then, is “a sort of disredemption.” The word’s meaning is obvious: falling out of love is like playing the drama of redemption in reverse. The word has a heartbreaking quality to it, but Lewis goes on to show the true love roots Eros in a relationship. It is Agape, the love that is self-sacrificial love, that completes Eros and creates space for its operation. Because, in the end, it will be that leap over the wall of our selfhood that will be the most challenging aspect of our relationship. When that altruistic appetite which transforms love begins to fade, it is Agape that turns the enacted drama of redemption into lifelong love.

“Disredemption” really is an ugly word–not just poetically, but in the concept itself. I am glad that the word “redemption” has no real opposite in the English language, and Lewis’ phrase here has not really caught on. Yet that sad, disredemptive potential of falling out of love no doubt remains after the word or the concept is forgotten.

The Words C.S. Lewis Made Up

About Brenton Dickieson

“A Pilgrim in Narnia” is a blog project in reading and talking about the work of C.S. Lewis, J.R.R. Tolkien, and the worlds they touched. As a "Faith, Fantasy, and Fiction" blog, we cover topics like children’s literature, apologetics and philosophy, myths and mythology, fantasy, theology, cultural critique, art and writing. This blog includes my thoughts as I read through Lewis and Tolkien and reflect on my own life and culture. In this sense, I am a Pilgrim in Narnia--or Middle Earth, or Fairyland. I am often peeking inside of wardrobes, looking for magic bricks in urban alleys, or rooting through yard sale boxes for old rings. If something here captures your imagination, leave a comment, “like” a post, share with your friends, or sign up to receive Narnian Pilgrim posts in your email box. Brenton Dickieson is a father, husband, friend, university lecturer, and freelance writer from Prince Edward Island, Canada. You can follow him on Twitter, @BrentonDana.
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10 Responses to The Words C.S. Lewis Made Up: Disredemption

  1. Oh what a splendid series this has been! You establish Lewis as a theologian of great subtlety and with a passion for connecting with people who are willing to do a bit of thinking. I smiled at the prudery of the 1950s and noted that our contemporaries often have their own version of this tendency. I learnt yesterday that when a speaker received an invitation to a British university’s Free Speech Society recently he was asked to sign a declaration promising not to say anything that might offend his hearers!
    It is one of my greatest pleasures as a Christian minister to be asked to conduct a wedding. I recently received a list of wedding dates that will take place in country parish churches in Worcestershire near my home and said yes to all but one of tbem (clashing with a holiday) and did so with relish. Whenever I go to visit the couple for the first time I feel as if I am entering a space of heavenly joy. Each wedding sends me back to my own home with a renewed sense of the privilege of my own marriage.

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    • Hi Stephen,
      Thanks for this. I think the 4 Loves is a book that’s worth coming back to again and again.
      Every generation has its prudery. Americans blushed at the topic of sex or decided to face problematic ideas with guns at Kent State or trials in the McCarthy era–combined with, of course, a million acts of good will by local citizens. Today’s prudery is about intellectual offence. Among other things–the normally political correctness and social sensitivities of the moment, we have intriguingly tied ideas about human relations to human rights.
      Notice, though, the conversation is still cycling around sex?
      In either case I am a heretic: I think free speech should be free, and more violence will come from oppressing ideas than from allowing people to express them.
      Weddings exhaust me! They are beautiful, and I have done well over 200. The vast majority of those were weddings of exiles–people who don’t belong in the church, in their minds. My first wedding in a church was actually last year, and that was pinch-hitting for a friend. Perhaps my first wholistically Christian wedding was this summer. So I chose to preach on Ephesians 5, using verse 21 as the header (not verse 22). It was a moving service overall and I was close to the couple.

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      • I don’t think that we will ever be able to talk about sex with ease. It is too powerful a force. I don’t know if you have come across this story, but I read about the BBC wanting to do a serious discussion on the erotic in the arts in the 1960s and they approached the notorious literary critic, Kenneth Tynan, to take part in it. They asked Tynan to suggest someone to take a different position from his call for the abolition of censorship and to the surprise of the programme maker Tynan suggested his old Oxford tutor, C.S Lewis. In the course of the discussion Lewis brilliantly argued that the problem with most erotic writing was not that it said too much but that it said far too little, falling short of the depths of human experience. I would imagine that the context was something like the Lady Chatterley’s Lover trial and Lawrence certainly falls into that particularly trap. Lewis’s point certainly connects to the argument you were making in this excellent post. He is right to link eros and redemption although right too to show that all eros is ultimately fulfilled by agape.
        It is one of the lovely things about the English church settlement that exiles still get married in the Church of England and so connect to the beauty of the liturgy in the Sarum Rite that has formed the basis of the wedding service since the 15th century. I am so glad that Cranmer did not throw it out in his Reformation Prayer Book. I have met more than one person who ascribed the beginning of a conscious spiritual search to the impact of their wedding service and I know that many more are touched well beyond a simple affirmation of “niceness”.

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  2. L.A. Smith says:

    Love this series. Disredemption is a chilling word indeed. I’ve been reading through the Old Testament and see this playing out on a cosmic scale as Israel abandons her true love to go after lesser gods. The consequences are ugly, to put it mildly.

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    • David Llewellyn Dodds says:

      Thanks! Before I read your comment, I was wondering about any possible connections or comparisons between this coinage (which I did not remember from The Four Loves) and Lewis’s discussion of God as the Great Iconoclast in A Grief Observed – along the lines of, is ‘idolatry’ a different (and opposite?) danger in ‘Eros’ from this ‘disredemption’ – a falling, not in just the same sense, ‘out of love’, but into a disordered, disproportionate, ‘love’ – as you suggest, another ‘disredemption’?


  3. David Llewellyn Dodds says:

    “The CD was released decades later; the sex content was left unadulterated but his cigarette was photoshopped out of the picture.” Might smoking at its best be related to Storge (though in a context of Philia, often enough – there are cinematic tropes I remember of people sharing a cigarette (would hookahs – and the ‘calumet’, on and off screen, fit in, here, too?) – though, it occurs to me there are erotic examples, as well…

    I remember a rather terrible playful remark of Lewis’s somewhere, to the effect that he could stop smoking, but it would something like a full-time job (no immediate lizard-to-horse possibilities, here?).


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